Good Morning!

Good morning lovely readers! I am wide awake now cause I am down with flu and sore throat. Yeah, what a day to start with. Anyway, let me start the day with another email shared from L.

dear Aunty Bibik,

A year ago, i broke up wid ma bf of 4 yrs. he claimed that dun love me anymore. i was indeed heartbroken bcos it was kinda sudden. in da mist of mending ma broken heart, i met a guy who is currently ma bf. i noe its kinda fast to jump into a r/s but i just did. i dunnoe whether i can love ma current bf cos i still do think & love ma ex bf. Me & ma ex bf do still contact with each other. he told me that he had to lie to me abt nt loving me anymore cos he still wanna enjoy life and his mats motor. he even told me that he love me more than anything else in da world & he believe that we will get back tgt wen he is ready. isnt it selfish? i cant simply just wait for him like that right? da thing abt ma current bf is that he has been waiting for me for 6yrs & nw he finally get me, he tend to be possessive. His family are so nice to me that make feel guilty cos they have high expections of me. They even asked me abt getting married! ideally, ma current bf make a gd bf, husband & father but i just cant have love him.

HELP ME PLEASE! What shud i do?

L

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Aunty Bibik - Honey, one of the reason u're still can't get over him is because u're still in contact with him. I don't think this guy is serious enough since he let go a 4 year r'ship cause he's still wanna enjoy. Couples enjoy together! My advice is just forget him. Men have this tendency to 'raise their head' because some girl are still waiting for them. And I do not want u to belong to that category. Simply said, if u do not want to be hurt, forget about him. He's a jerk.

Yes u take a step forward too soon. Ur current bf is possesive because he does not want to lose u again especially when he did 6 yrs ago. Again, u felt he's clingy because u're not used to him and also u're hoping u get back together with ur ex. If u're not ready for any commitment, just pack up and go. Nobody can force u. Just tell him that u're not ready for any r'ship and if he does not want to let u go, just say u still love ur x.

Love can be nurtured with time. Its only that u can't love him the way u love ur ex or vice versa. If u're willing to forget ur past and move on with ur current bf, ur feelings will slowly change. But do me a favour, cut off all contact with ur ex. It can take u a few years to love ur current bf, but at least u are free from ur x.

Follow ur instincts. Only u know the answer deep in ur heart.