Me and My Friend

Wow, I am elated that in just a short period of time, I am beginning to receive emails and I sincerely love reading them. As much as I love to give advices and such, I am no angel. I am not a person who would try to wreck your relationships, marriages, families and friends. I give my advices honestly and in every way tries to mend the broken glass(es). I change the names of the senders or the person involve to protect confidentiality.

Some asked why the name Bibik? I am not a domestic worker, and no I am not trying to degrade them. It also do not have anything to do with me having nieces or nephews. But of course, I have nephew and nieces cousin's, so that counts ok?

So enough about me, next is a problem shared by E.

Dear Bibik

I am sorry if I have a lot of grammar errors. Truth is, I am not that well verse in English but I try my best ok? I saw ur link somewhere and thought I want to confide in you.

Here it goes.

Me and my friend, we got issues. She's such a great friend at first when I find out she is such a bitch. She is the type who is very quiet, selenge and selekeh. She's not good academically too. I am not trying to insult her but I just want you to portray what she is like. Me on other hand, smart, updated with new stuffs and definitely not selekeh.

So one day I decide to coach her with her studies and I am proud to say that she improved alot. And suddenly out of nowhere she asked me to do a makeover on her. I was happy because I love to do makeover on people, make them up and stuffs. But I was afraid it might change her.

Then we go shopping, changed her and do what all other girls do. And its sad to say that it boost her confidence tremendously that she became a bitch. She offer herself to men and didn't even bother if her numbers are passed around. She entertain them and when the guys got to see her, they ran away because she's not as pretty as she claims. And she would cry to me saying the guys dumped her and stuffs.

As I was straightforward, I told her straight to the face that she's like a bitch. I didn't like the way she is because I knew she will be taken advantage one day. She couldn't take what I had said, and burst into tears. Next day she ignored me.

I do not care if she ignored me because I know I do not want to be friends with a girl like that. But the thing that I am very, very angry about is she made rumours about me not being a virgin, being 'rollin', a loose women and anything that you could think of degrading a woman's pride. She also said that I am not a good friend to be with.

Seriously I do not know what to do as my reputation have already been destroyed. :'(.

E
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Aunty Bibik - Honey, I am glad you did not lash it out on her as it would mean you're stooping to her level. You need to talk to her again, and asked what's her problem for creating such stories. And if need to, you would bring it up to higher authorities.

By the way you type, it sounded to me that you're a nice girl by befriending with someone of lower capability. But just remember not to think you're higher than them as it would mean you being such a snob. Maybe the way you address her problems caused a misunderstanding in everything. Some girls will not take it if someone calls her a bitch. So for her its like karma.

There's 2 solutions to the problem. Its either you totally forget about her or try to mend the friendship. After all, you did a favour by boosting her confidence and academics in which she will need in future. You have made a vast difference in her life and she WILL know that forever. Its her loss of losing you as a friend. Friends who helped to boost the academics are rare nowadays.

And the other is for her to clear your name and sort it with you. You should have an open talk, not shoot it to her face ok?